HIDUP HARMONI

Another illuminative book by Richard Templer


Rules for Finding Love

1. Be yourself
2. Get over it before you get on with it
3. You won’t be happy with a partner until you can be happy on your own
4. You’ll know them when you meet them
5. Choose someone who makes you laugh
6. Being less than a hundred percent attractive is a great filter
7. Don’t keep making the same mistakes
8. Certain people are off limits (you know who they are)
9. You can’t change people
10. Relationships aren’t about sex
11. Get to know someone through all the seasons before making any major decisions
12. Don’t stay with someone who doesn’t care
13. If you can’t trust them, you haven’t got a relationship
14. Be honest (while you still have the chance)
15. Don’t play games
16. Don’t tar new partners with old brushes
17. Check you both have the same shared goals
18. You can’t make someone love you
19. Be cruel to be kind


Relationship Rules

20. Be nice
21. Be together because you want to, not because you need to
22. Allow your partner the space to be themselves
23. Look to your own faults
24. Be honourable
25. Put each other first
26. Recognize the signs
27. Be a hero – or a heroine
28. Accept the differences, embrace what you have in common
29. Don’t belittle your partner
30. You want to do what?
31. Let not the sun go down upon your wrath
32. Be the first to say sorry
33. Houston, we have a problem
34. Don’t put them on a pedestal and expect them to stay there
35. Know when to listen and when to act
36. Never stop trying to be attractive
37. If you can say something nice, do
38. Don’t try to be their parent
39. Be part of their life
40. If little things annoy you, say so – with humour
41. Go that extra step in trying to please them
42. Make sure your partner is always pleased to see you
43. Don’t dump responsibility on your partner
44. Let them know if you don’t like their friends
45. Jealousy is your stuff, not theirs
46. Your partner is more important than your kids
47. Make time for romance
48. Have a passion for your life together
49. Share the workload
50. Trust the other one to do the job
51. Don’t be a nag
52. Make sure your love making is making love
53. Don’t control them
54. Listen to what they’re not saying
55. Most everyday arguments are about something else
56. Respect privacy
57. Treat your partner better than your best friend
58. Don’t be offended if they want some space
59. Men like flowers too
60. Keep your finances separate
61. Contentment (satisfaction) is a high aim
62. Be generous to each other financially
63. You make a choice every day
64. Don’t be a martyr (sacrifice ur soul for ur life)
65. You don’t both have to have the same rules
66. Put yourself in their shoes
67. In-laws are part of the package
68. Keep talking


Rules for Parting

69. Listen to your own internal voice
70. Recognize that it takes two
71. Keep the moral high ground
72. Don’t keep raking it over
73. Leave the kids out of it


Family Rules

74. Don’t blame your parents
75. Don’t let your parents control your feelings
76. Your children come before you
77. Nothing is worth falling out over
78. Treat them the way you believe is right, no matter how they treat you
79. Don’t pressurize your family just because you can
80. Never be too busy for loved ones
81. Your children need to fall out with you to leave home
82. They don’t have to be the same as you
83. There’s always stuff with siblings
84. Let go of your role


Friendship Rules

85. There are no rules
86. Your best friend was once a stranger
87. Only have people in your life who, on balance, make it better not worse
88. If you’re going to be a friend, be a good friend
89. Never give advice
90. Find friends who love the truth
91. Never lend money unless you’re prepared to write it off
92. If you don’t like their partner, tough
93. When one finger points forwards, three point back
94. Friendships change
95. Know when to let go
96. Bitterness helps no one


Rules for Everyone

97. Guilt is a selfish emotion
98. Love equals time
99. The more you put out, the more you get back
100. Other people are where it’s at